‘Wish I could have known him’: Kurt Cobain’s daughter’s devastating post

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Frances Bean Cobain has paid tribute to her father Kurt Cobain on the 30th anniversary of the Nirvana frontman’s death.

The legendary rocker tragically died in 1994 aged just 27.

Taking to Instagram on Fridat, Frances Bean, 31, shared an array of photos of her and her father from when she was a child, including a heartbreaking snapshot of “the last time they were together” before he passed away.

“30 years ago my dad’s life ended,” Frances Bean’s post began. “The 2nd & 3rd photo capture the last time we were together while he was still alive. His mom Wendy would often press my hands to her cheeks & say, with a lulling sadness, ‘you have his hands’. She would breathe them in as if it were her only chance to hold him just a little bit closer, frozen in time. I hope she’s holding his hands wherever they are.”

“In the last 30 years my ideas around loss have been in a continuous state of metamorphosing,” she continued. “The biggest lesson learned through grieving for almost as long as I’ve been conscious, is that it serves a purpose. The duality of life & death, pain & joy, yin & yang, need to exist along side each other or none of this would have any meaning. It is the impermanent nature of human existence which throws us into the depths of our most authentic lives. As It turns out, there is no greater motivation for leaning into loving awareness than knowing everything ends.”

Frances Bean went on to share her heartache at never getting to known her father properly before he died.

“I wish I could’ve known my Dad. I wish I knew the cadence of his voice, how he liked his coffee or the way it felt to be tucked in after a bedtime story. I always wondered if he would’ve caught tadpoles with me during the muggy Washington summers, or if he smelled of Camel Lights & strawberry nesquik (his favourites, I’ve been told).”

“But there is also deep wisdom being on an expedited path to understanding how precious life is,” Frances Bean added. “He gifted me a lesson in death that can only come through the LIVED experience of losing someone. It’s the gift of knowing for certain, when we love ourselves & those around us with compassion, with openness, with grace, the more meaningful our time here inherently becomes.”

The singer said she has held onto a letter her father wrote to her before she was born, which reads: “Where you go or wherever I go, I will always be with you.”

“He kept this promise because he is present in so many ways,” she said. “Whether it’s by hearing a song or through the hands we share, in those moments I get to spend a little time with my dad & he feels transcendent.”

Frances Bean then concluded her heartfelt tribute to her late dad with a message of support for others who have lost a loved one.

“To anyone who has wondered what it would’ve looked like to live along side the people they have lost, I’m holding you in my thoughts today. The meaning of our grief is the same,” she said.